All women who are looking for love hope to find the man of their dreams. Nobody wakes up in the morning and says, "I hope I end up with a horrible guy." So why do some women luck out to find their soul mates while others end up in mediocre relationships? Does it take a psychic to determine your romantic fate? Of course not.
You choose whether or not you find your soul mate in this life. This decision is often thwarted by unconscious actions on your part, but it is still a choice. Here are some examples of how women stand in the way of finding their soul mate.
Let go of Mr. Wrong.
Are you holding on to your current relationship only until something better comes along? This strategy makes emotional sense, as it keeps you from being alone. However, staying coupled up greatly reduces the chance of a better guy taking you seriously as a romantic prospect.
It's time to toughen up, let go of your security boyfriend and have the courage to be single until the right one comes along. It may happen tomorrow, it may happen next year, but it rarely happen when you are committed to someone else.
Reach for your dreams.
Perhaps you are holding off on buying your first home, traveling to exotic parts of the world, or taking up swing dancing until you find your true love. Although most dreams are more fun pursuing with your soul mate, it is better to be enjoying life and developing yourself as a person than living in a holding pattern until Mr. Right shows up.
If you sit and wait for your soul mate to come before pursuing your dreams, you will quickly stop growing as a person. And your ideal soul mate will be looking for someone who is happily doing the things she loves in life, not one who is sitting and waiting for someone else to make her life better.
Discover your real needs.
Sure, you know what you want in a soul mate. But is this necessarily what you need? Often we get something we've always wanted, only to be disappointed. This happens because we confuse our wants with our underlying needs. It's the same with our relationship needs. You may want a guy who spends lots of time with you. When you find a guy who happily spends time with you, as long as you are watching TV or playing video games, you find yourself unsatisfied. Why? Because your underlying need was to more than just spending time together, but connecting at a deep level by talking and sharing experiences.
Knowing the difference between your needs and your wants will determine much in your relationships. If you get what you wanted and not what you needed, you will not be satisfied. Discover your underlying needs, and you'll discover what you need in a soul mate.
Don't forget, finding true love is your choice. By continually growing and understanding yourself, you will greatly increase your ability to find him. Begin now by allowing yourself to be single, chasing after your dreams, and deciphering her underlying needs. It will cause an amazing difference in your life as you search for your soul mate.
Ready to find out what type of soulmate satisfies your underlying needs? Take our soulmate test, "What is My Soul Mate Really Like?" and begin your sojourn to finding true love.
